Your body is valuable

Relax and just give your body good things. He deserved it!

Submit the thought. Listen to your favorite music. Chill, don't have to do anything. Just hang out. Class!

However, even when doing nothing, it can quickly happen that thoughts suddenly hike in a direction that is not very pleasant. You may have grief, think about a dispute with a friend or family. You are frustrated because things don't go as you want in the job.

Tensions are painful and distract yourself from the essentials

Your body tenses, even if you think you are completely relaxed because you are doing nothing. Your body tenses without having to be aware of it.

Check the following: Are the top and lower jaw pressed together at this moment? Are your lips very tight and press your tongue to the palate roof? Or do you get yourself now that you breathe very superficially into the breast space?

No matter what you feel tense with you: they are reactions of the body to unconscious stress. This stress can already be "embodied" very deeply.

Why?

The body tensions in stressful situations for these three reasons:

• Either to fight

• to flee or

• to freeze.

These are very natural processes that have been working since time immemorial and are automatically triggered by stress hormones. For example, if you though thoughts of uncertainty, dissatisfaction, grief, fear or isolation to overwhelm you. Then your body does not ask you for permission - but he does what he has learned because you have given him the experiences from which he could learn in the course of your life.

An example: the more you think of "fear" when certain situations appear, the faster your body acts "fear". Your body remembers everything you take as an experience with fear in your brain.

This works like in the office in the folder cabinet. Everything is well sorted and filed. Your brain recognizes the situation in a matter of seconds, pulls the right folder from the shelf and the brain reacts as it learned. Again and again and faster!

So and here a small practice exercise:

1. Consciously relax the jaw and tongue. Lightly open your mouth.

Practice tip: If you are difficult to fall asleep, touch your lips with a relaxed jaw and tongue with your fingers. That calms down and is good.

2. Breathe in such a way that inhalation and exhalation are the same length: Choose in thoughts every time inhale and exhale up to seven.

Put your hands on the stomach below the ribbow and feel how the abdominal blanket lifts every time and reduces when exhaling. Do about a minute for about a minute.

The trick is that when exhaling, the heart beats a little slower than when inhaling. This promotes relaxation and will do you good. This little change in breathing is only fine, but if you practice this technique a few minutes every day before falling asleep, it can also make you more resistant in situations during the day in which you urgently need it. For example before difficult conversations. Try it out!

These small techniques are suitable for everyday use. I invite you to try them out!